Sex Positions With Your Pregnant Wife

It is more likely the reason that you got your wife pregnant in the first place, and now that she is, remember that making love with her is going to be a lot more different! So here is a very helpful reminder: ALWAYS PROCEED WITH CAUTION AND SENSITIVITY!

How do I even begin?

Your pregnant wife may be unusually touchy these days, but from the time of conception and usually up to 12 weeks of being pregnant, your wife may be very queasy when it comes to making love. She may give you numerous excuses like being too tired, or hungry, or nauseated, or dizzy, or just simply: “not in the mood”. But never take it personally though, remember that her hormones are making her that way, it is not because she doesn’t love you anymore. So given that fact: it will be always wise to open lines of communication before you even attempt at romance. Be more sensitive of your wife’s needs outside the bedroom, and soon enough, she will reciprocate with yours.

Is it safe? When?

Making love when you are expecting can have numerous benefits for you and your partner – fortunately though, you both can take the most advantage of this all throughout the pregnancy. Doctors say that you can have some action in the bedroom up until her water breaks! As soon as you get your Doctor’s “go” signal for love-making, then by all means go ahead! But of course, it would always be wise to follow your wife’s behavior before attempting at romance. Take note of how she responds when you make your attempts. And always bear in mind that until she is way past her first trimester, she maybe unresponsive to your attempts but of course, her conditions are mainly to blame: She maybe too nauseated, or too tired for it, but not to worry though, because she’ll be right back on track as she progresses in the pregnancy.

What if it is not safe?

While many Doctors and health practitioners are not against having couples sex during pregnancy, it is always best to open lines of communication not only with your wife but also with your Doctor as well. Again, it is wise to pay attention, listen, and take down notes most especially during Doctor’s appointments (or couples’ therapy sessions, if you are attending them). It is very important most especially for first time dads-to-be to know if there would be any restrictions during certain times, or if it would be totally restricted for the entire nine-month journey. Your wife’s conditions such as having an incompetent cervix (a condition known as placenta previa), vaginal bleeding, or if she is having signs of pre-term labor, it would be best to “steer clear” of love-making. But do not fret! Your Doctor or health practitioner may place these restrictions for the safety of your wife and baby, but you and your wife just need to be very open in terms of communication to be able to find ways to address the intimacy you want and need. Again, communication is always the key.

But what if I hurt the baby?

This is a FACT: YOU WON’T. Remember that your wife’s body is keeping your baby well-cushioned and protected with lots of layers of flesh and plenty of fluids to swim in too! As you and your wife “get it on with”, your baby will stay safe and rest peacefully inside his little bag of amniotic fluid despite all the action from the outside world: and yes, penetration included. And for the record (and yes, every gynecologist will confirm this): there exists a mucus plug that is separates your baby from all the elements of the outside world, including semen and any other infectious organisms too! So if your wife gives you the ‘go’ signal from her end, then go for it! But of course, keep in mind any advice your Doctor will give you. Also, be attentive of how your wife is coping: if she is expressing pain, or if it is making any one of you feel uncomfortable, it would be best to just stick to the old-fashioned, G-rated ways (like cuddling and holding hands!).

What positions will work?

Now that we have established clarifications regarding the nitty-gritty on the down and naughty, here we will provide helpful tips on the love-making! Many couples (especially first-time moms and dads-to-be) are concerned about what positions will work, especially with your wife’s ever growing belly, but in reality, these physical limitations will do nothing but test your creativity on modifying what will actually work, and who knows – you may even find out that some “pregnant positions” are worth keeping even until after your baby’s birth (if you will both have remaining energy for it)!

“Man-on-top” – This classical “missionary-style” position is, in my opinion, the most caring to your wife’s condition: because it keeps your wife in a laying down position, and frees her back from the unnecessary burden of worrying about supporting her belly (especially in the later months, when her belly is much bigger). To make her comfortable, you may want to suggest that she prop some pillows under her back, and also, make sure to keep your weight off her by propping yourself up with your arms.

“The Mattress Hold” – This variation of going down on all fours saves your wife the burden of having to support her belly (and pretty much, the rest of her own weight) with her arms. In this position, she keeps her head and and arms on the mattress, and have you enter from behind.

“Side-lying positions” – This laying-on-your-sides, be it front-to-front, or back-to-front (spooning) positions are mentioned my numerous couples as the best for pregnancy for mainly two reasons: one, that it keeps you off your backs, so you don’t have to worry about being able to support your belly, and two, it keeps you in a very relaxed position, making you achieve intimacy in a slow and sensual way. Win-win!

“The Scissor-legs” – This position is recommended for optimal pleasure. Have your wife lay on her side, with you on the opposite side, facing the opposite direction as well.

“Woman-on-top” – This very popular “cowgirl” position is great because it practically places no pressure on your wife’s ever growing belly. However you must both bear in mind that in the last few months of the pregnancy (when her belly is at its biggest), she may have trouble maneuvering this position, and it would be best if she sits facing the opposite direction.

“On the couch” – This slightly modern twist on the classic woman-on-top position requires that you sit up (on the couch, or the edge of the bed) while your wife sits facing on top of you. You then support her hips as she angles herself down towards you. You may be tempted to play with her breasts though, so be sure to ask if it doesn’t hurt to touch.

What positions should we avoid?

Love-making in the latter parts of this wonderful journey can prove to be so much of a challenge, as well as be frustrating because of your wife’s ever blossoming belly. As a general precaution, it is always best to be open to communicating with your partner first before even trying out different positions, as certain positions can be difficult and can be painful not only to your partner, but to you as well.

“The Floor Triangle” – This position, where your partner stands with her legs wide open, and reaches down to the floor with her hands with you entering her from behind can prove to be a very painful experience. Not only are you putting unnecessary strain on her arms (she needs to support her own weight and her belly as well) and back, you are also putting her at risk for some mood-wrecking bouts of nausea.

“The Lazy-Man’s Cart” – This position, where you are comfortably seated while your pregnant wife does the painful task of supporting herself (and her belly) is a big no-no. Yes, you may feel pleasurable with this kind of position because it gives you a spectacular view of her behind, but you better save this position after the arrival of your baby.

“The Kangaroo Pouch” – This position, where you lift your wife using your arms while she is facing you during penetration is a very big mistake. Not only are you putting your wife and your baby’s safety in danger, you are also causing unnecessary strain on your own back and hips. Now do you really need that now with a baby on the way?

“The Standing-Up Shower” – Yes, you read this right: Sure, shower sex does work for some couples, but with this manuever you are putting your wife at risk for accidental slipping on the floor. Not only are you posing threat to your wife if that does happen, you are also putting your precious baby at risk.

“The Hip Lift” – This is a very dangerous maneuver to try especially during the latter part of the pregnancy. Not only are you putting strain on your wife’s hips, you are causing yourself the unnecessary trouble of having to lift her weight (her belly included).

“The Butt-Lift” – This is, perhaps, the most ridiculous position any pregnant couple should avoid.

Start Preventing Premature Ejaculation In 5 Minutes!

There are many different ways which you can adopt in your quest to preventing premature ejaculation. Finding the solution will lead to improvements in your sexual performance and enable you to satisfy your sexual partner better. There are expensive medicines that you can try, but can you afford them? Even if you can, are you prepared to deal with the possible side effects? If you want to prevent premature ejaculation and last longer immediately, these are the 3 quick techniques which you can get started within 5 minutes.

Technique #1 – Apply The Last-Longer Sexual Position

Certain sexual positions certainly helps in preventing premature ejaculation and prolonging your sexual process.

It is reported that men get excited the fastest using the basic missionary style (with the man on the top). That is why using this position would usually make you ejaculate the quickest. Of course, the fact that you are using more groin muscles to thrust using this position also contributes to the early ejaculation.

If for whatever reason this position is your favourite, don’t worry, you may still use it. But to delay ejaculation, you have to always keep your body upright with her body lying down, with your body and her body forming a “L” shape. Do not lie on top of her face to face. This approach will help keeping your excitement under control and preventing premature ejaculation.

Other sexual positions like standing up while holding her around you, or having her on top of you while you are lying down also help in delaying ejaculation.

You can also try various doggy styles which may give you better control in ejaculation.

Ultimately, there’s no fast and fixed rule. What you want to achieve is preventing premature ejaculation. So, use only positions that can make you feel more relaxed and in better control of your ejaculation

Technique #2 – Allow Your Penis to Adapt to the Feeling of Vagina

This refers to preventing premature ejaculation and letting your penis to adapt to the feeling of vagina.

Like most things, when we first go into a new environment, we are usually more sensitive and beware of the surrounding. But once we are used to the environment, we are able to move around comfortably without feeling intense or sensitive.

This is the same for sex. When your penis first enters a vagina, it would normally feel very sensitive and you may find it more difficult to control your ejaculation at this point in time. But after staying a while inside the vagina, your penis would slowly getting use to the warm and hot feeling inside the vagina. That would reduce the penis’ level of sensitivity.

To get use to the feeling of vagina and preventing premature ejaculation at the very moment you enter her, you can try out this method. Get your female partner to sit on you for a while without you moving too much. Once you are used to the warm and moist environment of the vagina, the stimulation will be lowered and you won’t feel as sensitive. That is the time when you can start to have sex without ejaculating too soon.

Technique #3 – Always Urinate Before Sex

Never begin sex with a full bladder. This will cause pressure against your pelvic muscles, as well as your prostate. This pressure will contribute to early ejaculation. So, if you want to prevent premature ejaculation, always be certain to visit the restroom before sex.

I hope these 3 techniques are helpful to you. While these may not be the only best techniques available, but they’re still very effective in preventing premature ejaculation. No harm trying them out since they are free and natural (and safe) after all!

Top Ten Women’s Health Tips

 Top Ten Health Tips For Women

As you may have noticed, there are lots of things that you need to consider when trying to stay fit and healthy. More often than not this mass of information becomes overwhelming and most people start off with good intentions but give up in the long run, slipping back to old ways and habits. To help you maintain that healthy lifestyle, below are the top ten things you should be doing to keep yourself healthy and happy. 

1) When trying to keep to a healthy lifestyle, the first thing you need to consider is your diet. A good balanced diet is essential in maintaining a healthy body. Remember, ‘rubbish in = rubbish out’. Eating junk food, fatty food and other convenience foods will result in a feeling of lethargy, tiredness, depression and bad complexion just to name a few. Simple changes to make would be avoiding too much red meat, high fat foods and high calorie foods instead substituting this with high fibre low fat food, mixed with a regular intake of fruit and vegetables. Fibre is great for digestion whilst fruit and vegetables will help keep vitamin and mineral levels up. 

2) Make sure you drink plenty of water throughout the day. One of the risks of not drinking enough water is the onset of kidney stones. If you know anybody who has had kidney stones, you’ll know this is to be avoided! Drinking plenty of water will keep you hydrated which in the long run will help you cleanse your body of impurities. You will start to feel more alert and less tired, you may notice your skin improves with a new radiance. If you are lactating, it is vital that you keep well hydrated to ensure your milk is at its best. Most research suggests that eight glasses of water per day is a minimum. 

3) Consider taking vitamin and mineral supplements, especially at the beginning of your new healthy schedule. Some of the more important ones specific to women are Calcium and Iron. Calcium is essential for women of all ages but especially menopausal women to ensure good bone strength and minimise problems from onset of Osteoporosis. Iron supplements are especially important for menstruating women and women who suffer heavier blood loss during that time of the month. Vitamin E400 is worth taking as this has been shown to reduce flushes and sweating at night. For the skin, consider Vitamin E as as a dietary supplement.

4) If you smoke, GIVE UP!! Yes, I know that is much easier said than done but any reduction in the amount that you smoke will be beneficial. If you find the idea of giving up a step too far why not try cutting down? A great way to cut down is to try and extend the time between your cigarettes. If you can maintain this, you will gradually start to smoke less without feeling the withdrawals as much. If you are pregnant, then smoking is a big ‘NO-No’. The toxins in a cigarette can cross from the mothers bloodstream and into the baby. Also your chance of breast cancer is much higher if you are a smoker. Overall reducing alcohol and smoking less are great ways to a healthier happier life.

5) Try and introduce a regular exercise into your daily routine. There are simple ways to get exercise without really trying. You could try walking home from work if it’s not too far, don’t take the elevator all the time – try using the stairs. When your kids are outside playing, take a few minutes to go and play with them. Not only will you be getting fit but you’ll be spending more time with your children. Everyone wins! Yoga is also a great way to stay toned and supple. This can be done in the home with a minimal investment in equipment. There is lots of free info. on the internet related to yoga. A simple cheap way to stay healthy.

6) Try and avoid sources of stress. Stressful situations whether at home or at work can leave you with excess amounts of adrenaline and other ‘fight or flight’ by-products. These can affect heart muscle, upset sleep patterns causing insomnia and much more. Exercise can help to burn off some of these stress by-products but any high stress situations should be avoided.

7) A lot of women are a sucker for a good suntan but there are hidden dangers. Recent research has indicated that over exposure to sunlight and sun tanning beds could increase your chances of skin cancer by up to 30%. A lot of the damage is done in younger life and may not show for years. Simple ways to avoid danger would be to use high factor sun creams, don’t lie out in direct sunlight, consider using a tanning cream and avoid those nasty UV rays altogether.

8) Make sure you attend regular smear tests and ensure you visit your Gynaecologist on a regular basis. A lot of ‘womens’ problems’ can be detected in the early stages and treated accordingly. Cervical cancer, chlamydia and Warts are just a few of them. Avoiding your Gynaecologist is akin to playing Russian roulette!!

9) Make sure you practice safe sex. STD’s can be easily transmitted and even a long term partner could be harbouring some unknown stowaways. Sexually transmitted diseases can lie dormant for years. Until you are 100% sure you and you’re partner are free from STD’s practicing safe sex is the best way to stay healthy.

10) An often overlooked area of personal health is dental hygiene. Not looking after your oral hygiene may result in gum disease, tooth loss, halitosis to name but a few. Keep regular appointments with your dental hygienist and make sure you floss regularly to keep a beautiful bright smile.

Natural Ways to Prevent Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is the most commonly seen male sexual disorder striking over 75% men of all ages. Since many century’s people from all over the world are constantly seeking the ways to prevent premature ejaculation. Now we have several options to cure it, before discussing the treatment options it is essential to know a few facts about premature ejaculation because the solution for many problems lies in the origin of the problem itself.

Premature ejaculation is a condition in which the semen is ejected out earlier than desired. It is the onset of orgasm and reaching the climax with slightest sexual stimulation. It is a highly distressing situation which upsets a person’s relationship. Rapid orgasm in the beginning of sexual life is very common as it happens universally, but if a man is having rapid orgasms frequently than it must be taken seriously, and the person should know the ways to prevent premature ejaculation.

What causes the premature ejaculation?

Psychological cause: First sexual experience, anxiety, distress and performance pressure

Biological problems and diseases: Abnormal hormone levels, thyroid diseases, diabetes, hereditary.

Drug and alcohol abuse: Using recreational drugs, increased alcohol consumption and smoking.

All these conditions induce the breakdown of serotonin (neurotransmitter) in the brain thereby causing this problem.

Ways to Prevent Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation can be treated in several ways like psychological therapy, behavioral (exercise) therapy, herbal remedies and pharmaceutical therapy. Treatment options vary from one patient to the other. For some patient’s psychological counseling and exercises alone can cure the condition but on contrary to this some patients definitely need herbal or allopathic medical treatments. Psychological therapy: As anxiety is the key factor causing premature ejaculation, one should stay away from tensions and anxiety. Many men undergo performance pressure in the beginning of sex life, which makes them attain orgasm rapidly. The person should make himself comfortable, stress free and should not be bothered about performance while love making. By using mind control and concentrating on the act one can relish the joy of sex for a much longer time. Talking with your partner about romance and sex can be a great help to reduce anxiety.

Exercises: This is the most effective way to cure premature ejaculation. A few exercises when practiced regularly can help a man to develop tolerance for sexual stimulations. As these exercises are natural ways to prevent premature ejaculation, they are easy to perform and free from side effects. Here are the few exercises which should be performed regularly to achieve positive results. Squeeze technique: Master’s and John developed this exercise to treat their patients. This maneuver can be performed with or without the involvement of partner. In this technique, partner is instructed to stimulate the man’s penis until he is close to orgasm. Just before he ejaculates, the partner should squeeze the glans penis hard to abort the erection partially. This exercise helps the man to know the sensations leading to orgasm, and then he can learn to control and prevent the premature ejaculation.

Stop-start technique: Some authors refer this technique as pause-start technique. Performing this exercise regularly as directed helps the person to gain better ejaculatory control. In this activity, the partner stimulates the man sexually until he is close to orgasm, just before the orgasm partner stops stimulating him until the urge to ejaculate is diminished. This is repeated two or three times, and the man is allowed to ejaculate for the third or fourth repetition.

Pharmaceutical therapy: This therapy involves the use of certain drugs to delay the ejaculation. Using drugs to treat premature ejaculation in not been a part of standard medical practice due to its side effects. The commonly used drugs to treat it are anxiolytic and anti-depression drugs, as these drugs should be taken in large doses to delay orgasm, it is not recommended by FDA. Local anesthetic creams or gels can be applied on the head of penis 20 – 30 minutes before intercourse, this block the small sensory nerve fibers on the penis thereby decreasing the stimulus to orgasm. Home remedies: Include sea foods, ginger, lettuce and honey in your diet. Drink almond milk with saffron and ginger daily. Drinking a glass of water stirred with green onion seeds can be beneficial.

Herbal treatment: There are many herbal medicines available in the market which has shown promising results in preventing premature ejaculation. Some of the important ingredients used in these herbal medicines are shilajit, ashwagandha, ginseng, bala, vidari, fenugreek, saffron and other aphrodisiac herbs. Shilajit is an adoptogenic drug which increases resistance to stress and anxiety. It is being used to treat premature ejaculation and other sexual dysfunctions since the time of ancient Indian medical scholars Charaka and Sushrutha.